Thursday, 3 July 2014

Going Home

I had thought that it wouldn't be too much of a loss to anybody when I abandoned all this at some indeterminable point two summers ago, when life's events seemed to overtake the pace I could live them, and any sort of attempt at moulding my disjointed thoughts into sentences and paragraphs seemed to be something I didn't have time to do any more. I'd fallen in love and was gadding about the sunny streets, parks and bridges of London, the city I loved to hate, basking in reflected Olympic glory and generally enjoying life. About time, too, you might say. I was taking a well-earned and much-needed break from a lifetime of working too hard. Having, perhaps foolishly, just left my job to embark upon a major academic undertaking, I would soon be writing seriously, anyway, and for a living, if only for a little while.

I realised, though, that it was a loss to me - I missed that vague and non-committal tendency towards some sort of creativity in the loosest sense of the word, unhampered by external expectations of productivity that plague career author and academic alike, the slow grind of cogs as pen comes to paper (or fingertips to keys), the tentative appearance of a whiskered nose as a Hughesian thought-fox pads into the frame and settles there, twitching. I promised myself I'd take it up again, just as soon as I could mentally exhale, once my life had settled once again into some sort of stability and, dare I say it, the clockwork routine of another nine-to-five (if you're ever feeling disillusioned with your life, there really is nothing like a whip-lash nine-month Masters from Oxford to make you hanker for the days of professional stagnation, I can tell you).

So, after a silence which has lasted over two years, and for which I really have no excuse, here we are: prompted and cajoled by a sobering event that has banished my writers' block to the periphery. Before my extended leave of absence, I wrote about home: both your proper, comforting home-home, and the places you just call home that always seem transient or temporary in comparison with the real thing. My own home-home is an isolated rural hamlet on the west coast of Scotland, where nothing ever really happens and the only thing that makes much of a noise is the weather. My mum and I, sitting out one warm April morning with coffees by the front steps, were disturbed by as many as two or three passing cars in the space of an hour or so: we wondered grumpily where all these people were coming from, what they were up to in our village. A village, over the years, that has been the stage set for all manner of scenes: a ludicrously happy childhood, the claustrophobic prison of my prickly formative years, and now the admittedly romanticised yet truly cherished haven I retreat to when everything in the real world gets too much. A drive away from any vestige of civilisation, it can be a place of contradictions: it feels like it's at the end of the world yet miraculously is only two hours from the centre of Glasgow; it can rain and shine at the same time, and frequently does. Given the circumstances, I've been thinking an awful lot about it recently - about 'war' and cricket in the front garden; long afternoons swinging on that massive tyre suspended from a tree at the back of the house and shrouded by rhododendrons; making dens out of duvets stretched like sails between desk and cupboard in my bedroom; stealing up to the post office to spend 10p on highland toffee without parental permission; climbing the sinewy birch tree down on the shore in front of Fiona's house. We played football on the green with the rest of the village kids until ten o'clock - ten o'clock! - one summer, we ambled along the shore on what seems like endless afternoons, collecting starfish and crabs and sea anemones to keep in a bucket of salt water until, when we'd finished, we carefully placed them back where they belonged. In recent years, it has simply been the perfect place to hide from the world, to do absolutely nothing, where there's nothing much to do except perhaps pootle down to the shop to get some milk, where phones have no reception so you just leave them alone all weekend and simply enjoy the unhurried breakfasts, lunches, the catching up with mum and dad, endless pots of tea, and listening to that lovely, lovely silence.

When my mum announced matter-of-factly over breakfast during a visit about two years ago that "one day we'll definitely sell the house," I promptly burst into tears on the spot, something I can't remember doing since real toddlerhood. Even then, though, I didn't believe it, thought we had a good few years at least, in fact I probably thought it wouldn't ever really happen. I never imagined that six months after going on the market we'd be staring down the moment of being cut adrift. Our lovely, lived-in bastion of peculiar family values reduced to floor plans and prospects; condemned to the lonely fate of the holiday home. 

Over the years I've become more and more aware of a preoccupation - intellectual as well as philosophical - with places and their importance. Me, I get attached to places - not quickly, and not easily, but irreversibly. There's a permanent hole in my heart for the smoky rooftops, the narrow closes and wynds, the bookshops and meadows of Edinburgh, and some part of me, I fear, will always long to return there for good. You only have to look back through my blog and you'll see how many of my scribblings are concerned with how I feel about various parts of the world. My Masters dissertation delved into representations of  spaces, both in the literal, geographical sense and the metaphorical: the 'non-places' (the departure lounge waiting areas, the border crossings, the holding stations) where transience is the only constant, but where it may be possible to fashion a sort of makeshift home, a temporary space of belonging by attaching importance and ascribing meaning where we are otherwise cut adrift. (In Austerlitz, W. G. Sebald writes with astonishing imagery and masterful insight about the chasms and dark spaces hidden behind locked doors in the life of a Holocaust survivor; the memories, suppressed for a whole lifetime, which only drift into consciousness via a physical revisiting of places and their architecture). I don't mean to come over all Oxford, but I find this stuff fascinating - how we feel about the myriad locations in which and through which we pass our lives. Unsurprisingly, the novels I connect with and which resonate most are ones which are firmly rooted in a peculiar and particular setting, beautifully evoked and skilfully re-imagined. There's Burial Rites by Hannah Kent, where Agnes, the last woman in Iceland to be executed for murder, spends her final months as a condemned woman in a peasant village where the cold bites, the work is hard and the land unforgiving. Dark Matter by Michelle Paver is the most chilling ghost story I've ever read - it left me positively paralysed with fear with its tale of a lone explorer overwintering in a haunted cove: the perpetual Arctic gloom, waves lapping ominously at the shore and - just there - a solitary, dark, and altogether unwelcome figure on the periphery of your vision (don't look). In non-fiction, as well, I've fallen head-over-heels in love with Kathleen Jamie's Findings and her warm, observant and infinitely generous offerings on Scottish land- and cityscapes (she's also written Sightlines which is in the same vein and next on my list).

If I were feeling dramatic and Freudian at all, I would attribute all of this - this ridiculous obsession with place, to coin a phrase - to my displacement at an early age from suburban Oxfordshire to a rural village in Argyll. Perhaps it's a form of compensation for my lost belonging - the inherent sense that most people have without even knowing it of being able to say "I'm from here" and have nobody doubt it. I always felt a little bit of an outsider in the village (my parents would say this was because I was just a strange child) but I was desperate to fit in amongst the local kids. If truth be told, I overdid it, and of course the irony of assimilation is that the more you want it the harder it is to attain. I suppose I grew to take a sort of pride in being the odd one out, fancying myself as aloof and mysterious, probably ascribing the role to myself - and it's been so long by now that I'm just perpetuating the myth. In Scotland you're always "from England" and in England they don't believe you when you say you're Scottish ("Really? But you don't have an accent at all"). I was nearly eight when we moved up but I always say I was seven to maximise it as much as possible, to make me feel less of a fraud, and I have to admit to a slight tug of conflict where my absolutely innate sense of home should be. But I still grew up with irn bru bars, and midges, and west coast patter, and all those things you forget when you've been south for too long. I'm adamant about my roots - even if the branches have now spread further afield. I get attached to places.

I battled with myself for several weeks before I made the decision about whether to come back for one last visit before the sale goes through. The moment approaches thunderously that I've anticipated with dread ever since that throwaway breakfast comment, the moment when the car will turn out of the drive and I'll look back at the house - the house I always thought I'd live in again one day - and I'll know it's for good, and I'll never come back. Tomorrow I'm going home for the last time.

4 comments:

  1. Having overcome my desire to utter expletives on realising your parents haven't felt the need to tell the world they finally have a buyer, your blog set me off thinking. I too have a strong sense of location. Last week I went back to my old college for a gaudy. Simply getting off the train didn't work as the station and its environs were unrecognisable, but walking past the Bod, into Radcliffe Square, and into the Lodge was like being hit in the face. Just the sense of purposeful walking, not ambling like a tourist but aiming for "my" place, told me I was back. And before dinner I went into Chapel for Evensong. I sat down, looked up to the roof, and felt I was home. I just sat and grinned at the vaults, which must have looked utterly inane to those around me. Maybe it's my equivalent of Edinburgh for you, probably the most formative time of my life, when I was finding out who I was away from the influences of family, the safe environment of home, and deciding whether I liked who I was or whether change was needed. I know I won't ever go back to live there, but it certainly reminded me how utterly we are made by where we have spent time. Sx

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  2. Reaching for the tissues I have stocked up on for your arrival & departure .........

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  3. "Could be something to do with your age, Robert!"...Brilliant ��

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  4. Thanks for the comments. Sarah, I know exactly what you mean, especially about the purposeful walking! I'm almost starting to feel that way about parts of London...

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